Online dating has grown amazingly quickly in recent years, and it is now a billion-dollar industry, with 40 million users in the US alone. If you’re thinking about getting involved, here are a few tips:
1) Choose the right site
The biggest dating sites have millions of users, most of whom won’t share your interests. Specialised sites such as sportysingles.com bring together like-minded people, which makes things much easier. There are also useful niche sections on some mainstream websites such as eHarmony.
Paid sites can cost over £10 a month, but as an online-dating friend of mine says, ‘You get what you pay for’ with better compatibility-testing software and more people who are serious about meeting someone.
If you’re still not sure which to go for, there are several comparison sites with information and reviews.
2) Pick a good photo
When browsing through most dating sites, all you see is a photo and a brief caption. People need to click on this before they can see your full written profile. So, however little people claim to care about looks, having a good photo is important.
It should be a clear, in-focus, normal picture of your face and just your face – not you in your car, not you with your friends, not you drunk and especially not you in skimpy underwear, or with your T-shirt off flexing your muscles.
3) Write a good profile
Be clear what you’re after. If you’re looking for black relationships, say so. If you’ll only date a fellow Christian, put it in your profile. You don’t want time-wasting messages from people who aren’t your type. And they’ll be grateful that you saved their time too.
Talk about who you are and what makes you interesting or different. Saying ‘I like movies and socialising’ is completely pointless. Everyone does. Not many people like medieval re-enactment days and techno-jazz, so try those (or whatever you’re really interested in).
4) Contact people
Don’t be shy. No one will be offended at a nice, personal message, even if you’re really not their type. Personal is the key word – ask about things in their profile. Don’t send out thousands of identical messages, particularly if they begin with ‘Hey howz u?’ Also avoid cheesy chat-up lines and doggerel poetry: ‘If u like wot u see/get bk to me.’

5) Be honest
The person you’re talking to might be nervous about online dating and be hyper-sceptical about any extravagant claims. ‘I proved Goldbach’s Conjecture, played professional rugby and founded IBM,’ for example, won’t get you far. There’s no point in lying about yourself – you’ll have to meet in person at some point.
6) Go on a date
Don’t be nervous about arranging a meet-up, unless you ignored the previous tip and claimed to be Robert de Niro. You might find your date wasn’t quite what you were expecting, but it’s very unlikely they’ll be a complete weirdo. It’s best to take a few safety precautions anyway, so meet in a public place, tell a friend where you’re going and don’t give out your home phone number or address.
7) Have fun
You might not find someone in the first few months, but it doesn’t matter. Online dating is a great opportunity to meet people, and sites such as www.eharmony.co.uk are here to stay. Why rush it?